Freelance Notebook // Jealousy

Freelance-Notebook-jealousySo I’ve been meaning to talk about this specific topic for some time now. The not often talked about feeling of jealousy. You know the feeling and don’t pretend that you don’t.

Heck, I can’t even count the number of times I’ve been jealous. Everyone goes through jealousy at some point in their lives. Even if they don’t talk about it…which I find people don’t do often enough. When you admit that your jealous of someone, I think there’s a certain negative stigma that follows that word. This is especially true for those of us in the design world. Sometimes it’s hard to look at other designers blogs, because all you can think about is how much better their blog looks compared to yours, how successful they are, or how their life looks much more interesting than yours…. Hey, it happens to the best of us.

Lately I have been trying to focus on what’s great about me and what’s different about what I have to offer. After all everyone is unique and it would be a really boring world if everything looked the same and did the same things.

I think there are some positives to jealousy. It can push you into working harder and achieving more of your goals. It can inspire you in different ways and it can make you ask yourself “why.” Why am I jealous of this person? What is it about this that makes me jealous? On the negative side, it really can eat you up. It can lead to sadness and feelings of inadequacy.

What are some positive ways that you cope with jealousy? Here are a few of my own tricks to cope with creative jealousy (when it happens):

/ Choose to be happy for that person, they worked hard for whatever they’ve accomplished. Write them an email saying how much you enjoy their work. Trust me on this. It will make you feel good.

/ Create something completely opposite from what you see. You might discover something beautiful and unique along the way.

/ Ask yourself what is REALLY making you jealous. Write it down and then respond with positive qualities about your own work.

/ Finally write about your feelings and share it with someone. Chances are someone out there is feeling the exact same way. So be honest and share. You’ll find that your not alone.

Happy weekend everyone! Remember jealousy isn’t always a bad thing. It can be a reminder that hard work really does pay off. So stay motivated!

jealousy will eat you // by everyday deelights



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